Five-month-old boy left facedown in the yard, in a diaper…

…at night, in early December.

“I’m sorry,” is what I heard the boy’s father, Christopher Dalphond, 26, tell Lowell Police over and over as he sat on his front porch in handcuffs Monday night at 119 Lilley Avenue.

He had said as much about a dozen times before an officer finally chastized him, asking Dalphond why he kept apologizing instead of asking about his baby’s well-being, or even where the boy had been taken.

Police were called to 119 Lilley Avenue about 9:51 p.m., for a report of someone screaming. They found the baby, who’s extremities were cold the touch, laying facedown in the backyard, wearing nothing but a diaper, according to police. Police said they found Dalphond hiding under a canoe nearby in the backyard.

The boy was taken immediately to Lowell General Hospital. I arrived to find Dalphond sitting on his front stoop, apologizing and talking to police. Police believed the boy’s mother was in the second-floor apartment, but couldn’t enter because of two dogs that were loose inside. Dalphond agreed she was up there and said he didn’t know why she wouldn’t come to the door.

Dalphond told police he takes methadone, but that he’s been clean for a while.

Once Animal Control Officer Robert Pickard secured the dogs, police searched and realized that the mother wasn’t home. That’s when Dalphond mentioned she was working. I’m not sure if Dalphond initially gave police a false name, but after an officer asked him what “your real date of birth is,” officers determined he was wanted on a default warrant.

He was arrested on that and held overnight. By the time he was in Lowell District Court this morning Dalphond had also been charged with child endangerment.

Lowell Police contacted the Department of Children and Families, which released the child into the custody of his 24-year-old mother, who, at least until last night, lives with Dalphond.

Despite being taken to court on a default warrant issued by Concord District Court, Dalphond was released on person recognizance at his arraignment.

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69 responses to “Five-month-old boy left facedown in the yard, in a diaper…

    • clearly they are out of their mind. . . leaving our child with his mother. the unfortunate fact of the matter is that YOU DON’T KNOW ME OR MY FAMILY

      it is your right to think or say what you wish. but for you to go and attack my fiancee is completely unwarranted. i’m sure it’s easy to continually judge people from behind your computer screen deeming all that is disagreeable to you , is most-definately fact.

      • If the mother is still with that man, they should have not released the baby to her either. that man has some mental issues 😦

  1. THat just makes me sick why in the world would the give back the poor little scared baby too the mother for wat for she can let that sick man right back in and abuse that baby!! The system isnt right, thats wrong, that baby could of died god only knows wat sick and demented things besides this must of happened to that beutiful baby!(they both need to go to jail) she knew wat kind of monster she left her baby wit(shes not a mother just as guilty as him)

    • first off, my child was in no was shape or form harmed. he was not scared, and there is absolutely no reason why, especially after ad nauseum conversations with dcf, they realized that there seemed to be a breakdown in communication. my child had NO POSSIBLE WAY of sustaining an injury. he was wrapped in several blankets which ended up strewn across my back yard thanks to Lowell’s Finest. so before you go on praising to the lord in heaven of how sick i am. my child is, amongst other things, quite handsome. all i’m saying is, you can’t just rant about someone knowing solely the details printed in the newspaper (again, 85% of which was a complete exaggeration or fallacy. i appreciate your understanding in the matter and am thankful for your concern. but to condemn 2 people as parents without so much as having had any contact with either one, is simply put….unaccaptable, and unethical. i have no problems whatsoever answering anyone’s questions in regards to anything that you see fit.

      -cheers

  2. It’s more than obvious that the baby’s mother is much more responsible than the father (read-sperm donor) in this serious-and potentially lethal- situation…besides actually having a job (important for paying bills & supporting one’s family) to go to she has her hands full with TWO babies– her son and the poor excuse for a human being who needs to grow up! My sincere hope is that she gets a real baby-sitter & gets rid of the s*@#bag that nearly cost her young son his life!

    • well hello there,
      this is the shitbag responding to your concern for matters entirely unrelated to you and irrellevant. i will reitereate, YOU PEOPLE KNOW NOT WHAT YOU SPEAK OF. you know nothing of me or my family. i am more than happy to accept constructive criticism. and who are you to speak out and say that she is supporting 2 people + baby + dogs? and i’m still at a loss as to how this situation could have possibly turned out lethal. you may not be familiar with human anatomy and physiology….fortunately for you, i am. i would say in 99% of incidents relating to infants it is due to the neglect of the parents. this case, however, is not in the realm of the 99%. know this poor excuse for a human being only makes a few thousand dollars more yearly than his wife, so i certainly understand where you get the idea that she supports the family in it’s entiretly. good show.

  3. Maybe we should do the same to that dad. Oh lets say…. tonight since its freezing ugh. I think men like him it should be manditory to get his peepe snipped

    • yes ma’am. certainly an eye for an eye has proven to be the best way to settle matters throughout history. myself, i like the stokades. the bend you over….causing radiating, sharp pain throughout the legs with the added bonus of having the rest of the township toss basically whatever they want at you. capital punishment, cruel and unusual punishment, and I REALLY THINK the torture chambers of olde. in the basement of castles were quite affective.

  4. Why is the mother automatically at fault to you people??? she was at work and left her child with his father, obviously she felt safe leaving her child with it’s father! nobody on here knows what happened before police were called, and i can guarentee DCF will follow up wiith her and tell her if the father is found alone with the child or he is living in the home that they will remove the child. unless you were there dont blame the mother for trying to support her family…. you wanna place blame on a mother go attack the chick that gave her kid drugs to hide/ dispose of… atleast you know she actually did something wrong.

    • clearly my child is doomed to a life of poverty, idiocy, domestic violence, sexual abuse, and a whole slew of things based on this one, isolated incident. if only i knew! if only he had good parents capable of passing along their decorum and capacity for intelligence. it”s a shame we’ve brought another slack-jawed yokel into this world…… : * (

  5. Unfortunately, that child is doomed until its 18th birthday.

    Child protective services are great and run by excellent people. But the system is far from perfect. The child deserves to be with his mother. Whether she is to be blamed or not. She hasnt been charged with a thing. Keep a family together for the sake of the child.

  6. Please allow me to shed some light on the situation at hand.:
    first off and foremost the article as pictured above reports fasely occurrences, statements and events. this article holds no water. the police were initially called as a result of a noise complaint. HOWEVER, the yelling that the caller heard was directed at my dogs when they sneek out of the yard …especially at dark. unortunately one of my dogs did utilize the restroom on a part my landlords lawn, which is significantly repremandable. Now, as i went upstairs, the baby woken up after i just gave him a bath and feeding him. so i took him downstairs after alreadywearing a onsie and covered in many blankets, as well as in his carseat chair. The article states that both my baby and the seat was on the groung at that they “saw him face down on the ground in nothing but a diaper. false. i was hiding under canoes? Note: the canoes referenced above. mind you there are a total of two (2) both at 5 feet tall. i am 6″1. so after picking up and maintaing a load ot dog exrement i would politely takled by 5-6 of lowells finest. as a matter of fact, i do recall asking multiple officers what’s happening, where are you taking my child, etc. of course this fact was failed to be mentioned in the article. there are a couple more exaggerated or completely false statements as reported by the Lowell Sun. But, worry not about them, they will realize that printing libel and defamation of character.

  7. Furthermore, upon my fiance’s return home, she let the dogs out before bed, only to find both my child’s carseat, but 4 blankets to accompany it in the back yard. thii’vs has been documented. one of my favorite occurrences during the ordeal, my landlord allowed the police to take a picture of my fiancee and myself (for identificatin purposes, obviously). all of a sudden, i was asked what nationality she was, at which point in time i told them…..they responded by speaking loud enough for everyone to hear, because the next sentence out or one of their mouths repeatedly indicated how “hott” she is…”nice tits”, the other officer said. it was after this that they indicated how they wanted to do things sexually to my fiancee in some vain attempt to get a rise ouf of me. these are LOWELL POLICE OFFICERS, mind you. in regards to me saying “i’m sorry” a dozen times, an exaggerated instance, i was first told by officers that i had waived my miranda right to speak without an attorney present (which i did not do, agree too, acknowledge, or say). someone asked, “why would they release the child to the mother?” i am going to be as cordial as i possibly can here. not ONE of the people commenting in response to this article knows the first thing about myself, my fiancee, my child, 2 dogs, or my vast family. no. instead you read what’s put in front of and accept 85% of every single word as fact. Atticus’s mother could, quite possibly, be one of the best mother’s i have ever seen. ) for those of you bashing her for wanting her child back……is there something wrong with you? see, i’ve accepted the fact that there are many things wrong with me. there are many more people with mental issues who refuse to seek help. I have recognized the fact that there may be a pathway in my synapses that is not firing, or firing incorrectly. ….oh?! you thought i was some undeducated fool, living off of your hard-earned tax money? i’m sorry to disappoint you. i actually have a bachelor’s degree! amazing, i know. i know you were all hoping to continue to bash a hard working american victimized and brought so close to hell, the toxic gases began to grasp hold of my lungs. OH! in regards to my degree, in case you were wondering, it’s in biology…..3.85 GPA, top 10 in my class. i only bring this up because anyone would certainly automatically assume i’m some moronic, lazy, idiot rampant and running around, with no regard for anyone but themselves. i’m mostly just sad that people will never truly give anyone the benefit of the doubt. they see something on CNN or and myriad of news stations governed by the same company or 2….all filtered down into nice, serving sie spoonful of easily digestible bulllshit. …..BRAINFOOD!
    Look, i have an extensive amount of witnesses, most of whom i’m familiar with. which will most certainly attest to the facts i have stated herein. blame me all you want, but for you to take my wife out of the situation, i sincerely feel as though you may not have the inellectal capacity to understand the ins and outs of this situation. and that is too bad. my judgement has been passed. so be it. i shall move forward, ever forward growing from a clever man; who learns from his past mistakes. thereby opening the doorway to achieve being wise; thus learning the mistakes of other people

    • Ok Heffe a few points…number one, seek help…I am delighted that you have a bachelor’s degree…what the hell does that have to do with you bringing an infant outside in a obedient with who cares how many blanket to chase your dogs?…If you need help get it, in my professional opinion you need it because your Johnny Cochran inspired post is like a political speech…goes on forever and most of it is nonsense…..bottom line…worst case scenario if you have to Chase the frickin dogs in winter, put the baby in a SAFE place take that wonderful contraption known as a baby monitor with you and go chase the damn stupid dogs since they are obviously more important than keeping your infant in the house safe and warm…your diatribe is nonsensical..everyone’s fault but yours…I am being persecuted yadda yadda inappropriate behavior by the police blah blah…but when people get up in arms about SFR returning an innocent child to an obviously less than perfect situation when you yourself admit that you have more than a few problems…you wonder why? Dude seriously….I don’t give a jolly good goddamn about anything except the safety of an innocent child…get help get your priorities in order then tell us we are wrong for being concerned…

      • And OH BY THE WAY….unless your bachelor’s degree is in bullsh*t…I don’t believe a word of that either…to your fiance…get out while the getting is good…I do not see this ending any way but badly…

    • A bachelor’s degree? Were you referring to your fiancee’s bachelor degree? Finishing top 10 in your class? Degree in biology (her major was not in biology)? It sounds like you are dillusional! Wake up, man! I know personally that you did not even finish college. So before you post anything or a reply in this blog, make sure that the readers do not know you or know nothing about you and your family.

      Poor girl! She does not see who you truely are. She supports you, the baby and the dogs. If you truly cares about her. Let her go so she can provide better for your son. But again, if you let her go then who would take you, right? You have nowhere to go, your family gave up on you and you only have her to give you shelter….very, very selfish reasons! No wonder your family adores the mother of your baby…they can put the burden on her.

      • who the fuck are you to say what i have and have not done? clearly you know me well enough to know things of a personal nature in regards to myself and my family. and before you step ba
        you are certainly correct in posing the question of how relevant my education is. simply put, i made the statement in order for people to get a better understanding. . . that i’m not just some moronic loser who is completely incompetent .
        to ann: in regards to me seeking help? i’m just curious to know what kind of help, exactly, you feel as though would benefit me. aside from that, who said anything about me running around chasing my dogs with blankets? i simply made note of the fact that my child was well protected from those balmy atmospheric conditions. you have your facts of the matter misconstrued, and manipulated so that when push comes to shove, you will feel as though you were the righteous one. the one who, was clearly there and know precisely the ins and outs of the situation. i would like to raise the point, as well, that i never made any statements indicating that i was being singled out, persecuted, or anything of the sort.
        so, please;’ before you continue on being the perceivable, condescending person you are portraying yourself as, try to dig a bit deeper. maybe you’ll find that my child is my priority. my child is in a “SAFE” place.

      • furthermore, if you were a real man, you would at the very least reveal yourself to me. maybe listen to what is being said instead of shutting down mentally when someone refutes your argument. you honest, and truly know nothing of me or my family for that matter. that being said, i encourage you to continue to bring out the “facts” you know nothing of me for a “fact” you know nothing of my life as “fact” and if you did, you would at the very least allow chivalry to emerge and have a discussion with myself *not on a msg board*

        other than that, i could give a fuck what you think you know.

    • It doesnt matter what your GPA was in school. Your baby was left outside alone while your husband hid under a canoe and you dont see why people are upset?
      Hiding under canoe, what drug makes you do that?

  8. It goes to show you that you can only believe half of what you see and NONE of what you hear. The police and the media are forever famous for twisting the facts to suit them best. It isnt a personal opinion it is a FACT! I’m completely unbiased in this matter as I do not know any of the parties involved and have an entire family involved in law enforcement. I’m sorry to know either way that this family has been dealing with such turmoil and only pray for a safe and happy environment for this child.

    • Anon,

      perhaps there could be some little exaggeration to the story, but you know what? if you know heffe, then you can believe 90% of what was reported here. Here’s the fact…he has no college degree, he is not working, he relies on the mother of his child, he stole and pawned his girlfriend’s possession to buy drugs, he left Hawaii because he got in trouble there, and many many more. And I better not forget that he is a freaking USER.

      My God, who would want to be with this man?

      • anonymous,
        it’s obvious you know my family in some capacity, so why hide behind the vail of anonymity? i’m certain you must be the one omniscient being who sees and knows all. why did i leave hawaii again? that’s right….according to you i got in trouble….which makes me laugh because of the falsity of the statement. i stole and pawned my girls jewelry for drugs?…..shit caught again. let me make this as clear as possible for you. i rely on NOBODY to support me i am significantly more capable of doing any task set forth in front of me…..wait, that’s not true. i don’t have a college degree, according to you….correct? man, it must be nice knowing all these things about people, there personal and family lives and, basically everything in general. i certainly wish i had that ability.
        the fact that i used to abuse illicit substances is something i came to terms with a long time ago. . . and i have freely admitted to it. so, i’m not exactly sure what it is that you’re attempting to do here aside from sully my good name.
        oh! that’s right!!! rely on my fiancee to support our family. funny, that is, considering i work to jobs it as well as own a company. it must make you feel better about yourself seeking out people’s wrongdoings and exploiting them. only problem with that is the fact that you know absolutely nothing about me, my fiancee, my dogs, or my child.
        so maybe next time, dig a little deeper……hey! who knows? you may even emerge with more slander against myself.

      • Slander? Man, I wish it was. Why I know? Because the mother of your child told us so….remember Hawaii? Think back, Heffe!

        If you have a degree in biology then why can’t you not get a proper job, support your family? You’ve worked at restaurants, selling memorabilia, etc….what a degree in biology takes you, huh? So before you say lies and telling the whole world you have a degree in biology, then prove it. I am certain you cannot even provide us with a real diploma. You’re a big liar and a big user!

      • Hey Heffe,

        Anon mentioned that you stole and pawned the posessions of your girlfriend for drugs and you responded by saying Anon’s statement is false that “I stole and pawned my girls jewelery for drugs”. I wonder if it’s just a coincidence that you specified exactly what posessions were stolen from your girlfriend. In my opinion I feel that if you were mentally stable and/or were not guilty of all of the things mentioned in the original article as well as the posts that folowed, then you would not feel the need to continuously try to prove that you are innocent by replying to every post that is on here. A person that is mentally stable and not guilty would let it be, forget about it and move on. When you know with all of your heart that you are a good parent/significant other you don’t bother trying to defend yourself for things that are not true. You are secure in knowing the truth of your character and of your actions. Everyone makes mistakes and nobody is perfect but many of these things you are accused of are quite outrageous and are not your typical mistakes people make. People that make bad decisions of this severity are one/all or a combination of the following; mentally unstable, drug users or alcoholics. Please stop the facade and the BS stories, be a man and have some accountability for your actions. You are doing a huge disservice to your son and girlfriend if you do not seek help for your problems. Your life, the life of your son and your girlfriend is never going to get better if you do not admit to your problems and mistakes. Please get the help that you need so that you all can try to live a normal happy life.

      • Carol, Thanks for your reply, I know enough about Heffe….In fact, it was his girlfriend that informed us about the stealing, the drugs, and he himself said that he has no college degree…so why continue with the lies? He said he owns a business? Man…he cannot even keep a job.

        The sad part of the story is she stayed with him even with everything that he did.Here is the sad part of the story too….his family informed his girlfriend that she would be better off without him. Then they turn around and inform her that she is the best thing that ever happened to him as he’s changed. You call this change? Talking about putting the guilt on this girl…sad sad sad.

        He needs to get up and be a man. Unfortunately, all he does is talk, talk and more talk, and lies, lies, and more lies. I do not think this Christopher/Heffe is going to change. This is the same man I knew 5 years ago…so there you have it…i know stuff about Heffe…I remember Hawaii when his girlfriend allowed him to stay at her parent’s condo. He got into trouble, sold her jewelries and bought drugs. She was so upset because the jewelries he pawned were her parents’ gift to her and even an alien ware computer….he also pawned her mobile phone….sad but true and this is not slander…because the source was actually the mother of her child especially when she saw the receipts 😦

      • It’s time to “man up” and just admit that you need help. Counseling, rehab, whatever will work for you. If you put a fraction of the time into looking for (or working) a job as you do posting all these reasons (aka excuses) for your situation things would be much better for the three of you. Time to take a good hard look in the mirror and realize you are the problem – I truly wish you well with your recovery and life. But it’s on you – no one else. All three of you simply deserve better.

    • Simply put – it’s time to “man up” and just admit that you need help. If you put a fraction of the time into looking for (or working) a job as you do posting all these reasons (aka excuses) for your situation things would be much better for the three of you. Time to take a good hard look in the mirror and realize you are the problem – I truly wish you well with your recovery and life. But it’s on you – no one else. All three of you simply deserve better.

    • anon, i appreciate that. fact is, the entirety of these events transpiring are based on falsities. and, yes, we do have to roll with the punches and strive to move forward. this event was undoubtedly unfortunate.

      • i would like wo wholeheartedly thank you for, at the very least, empathizing with me. as i said before, i can only look forward from here…..not back. and i must recognize all of my past transgressions. thankfully, i have done this…i have learned from the many mistakes i’ve made and all i can do is move forward. thank you from the bottom of my heart. i can’t explain to you how refreshing it is to come across this post and see that it’s not me being chastized by people who are gonna believe what they believe. my perrogative is getting past this and moving forward with my family, whom i love very much

  9. why would you even take a baby out in a onesie ? with how ever many blankets after a bath…. Yea not that bright we could give you the benifit of the doubt but sorry i dont by it that poor baby what were you thinking

  10. That has to be some of the most incoherent rambling i’ve ever seen. Whatever ‘university’ awarded you a bachelor’s degree is certainly lacking in several departments. Now, to be clear, I honestly couldn’t care less what happens or doesn’t happen to you. I’m just confused by some of the many perceived sleights you seem to have suffered.

    “… i am 6″1. so after picking up and maintaing a load ot dog exrement i would politely takled by 5-6 of lowells finest. as a matter of fact, i do recall asking multiple officers what’s happening, where are you taking my child, etc…”

    followed shortly by;

    “… in regards to me saying “i’m sorry” a dozen times, an exaggerated instance, i was first told by officers that i had waived my miranda right to speak without an attorney present (which i did not do, agree too, acknowledge, or say)…”

    I’m no criminal justice major, but I do know the Miranda rights include the phrase, “..You have a right to remain silent… anything you say can and will be used against you…” Ok, once again I am no criminal major, but to me that says as soon as you open your yap, YOU HAVE WAIVED YOUR RIGHT TO REMAIN SILENT BY SAYING WORDS! The Right to Remain Silent means you keep your mouth closed because you don’t have to say anything.

    “….oh?! you thought i was some undeducated fool, living off of your hard-earned tax money? i’m sorry to disappoint you…”

    I doubt anyone is ‘disappointed’, since you haven’t seemed to dispute the fact you were addicted to opiates and as a result have been taking Methadone. Who do you think pays for these services? Furthermore, I don’t see you dispute the fact that there was a warrant for your arrest BEFORE this incident. You say none of us posting knows a thing about you? We don’t even need to mention ANY of that to get my point across though. Just know that by reading your posts an educated person could glean some crucial information.

    If I don’t want to eat the “easily digestible bullshit, BRAINFOOD” from the people reporting the news, I certainly don’t want to eat the bullshit from the guy being accused of all this. Everyone expects you to deny, deny, deny. Instead of spending the last 4 months thinking of a way to spin the story that is printed into some sort of great misdeed against you and your family, taking at least PARTIAL responsibility (which I haven’t seen you take ANY) for your actions, would probably go a long way towards helping whatever message you’re trying to convey (what is your message exactly??).

    The fact that you’re trying to introduce all these paradoxes (“i’m 6’1″ how can I fit under a 5’0″ canoe?!?”), and also trying to lower the credibility of the LPD (One guy thinks your fiance has a nice rack, so they’re clearly ALL liars somehow) really speaks volumes about the reasoning behind the posting. You probably should have remembered to exercise your Miranda rights before you decided to post.

    • i was, actually never given my miranda rights. sorry you feel as though i’m manipulating this story in my favor. that is not the case. i’ve simply brought forth the facts of that evening. i certainly admitted that i had a bout with opiates, but am not taking methadone, as reported by the lowell sun. i accept full responsibility for what happened. the child was under my care and it’s only logical i be held accountable. look, i’ve come to terms with all of these facts. i have denied nothing, aside from any wrongdoing on the night in question. maybe i came off a little too harsh. for this, i apologize. and, again, i accept full responsibilty for the events that night

  11. I commend you for deffending yourself as no one else will and you will be slandered no matter what you do because the press has defimated you. No one was there except you the police and the press and in that case it is your word against theirs. Not everything we read is true people and though mistakes may have been made who are we to judge? No one is perfect, and if you take a long hard look in the mirror, you will see and imperfect soul too. The people who judge, are the people who have made mistakes. Good luck Heffe to your family may whatever did happen that night be straightened out so you can get back to a life out of the public eye.

    • i would like wo wholeheartedly thank you for, at the very least, empathizing with me. as i said before, i can only look forward from here…..not back. and i must recognize all of my past transgressions. thankfully, i have done this…i have learned from the many mistakes i’ve made and all i can do is move forward. thank you from the bottom of my heart. i can’t explain to you how refreshing it is to come across this post and see that it’s not me being chastized by people who are gonna believe what they believe. my perrogative is getting past this and moving forward with my family, whom i love very much

    • i would like wo wholeheartedly thank you for, at the very least, empathizing with me. as i said beve done this…i have learned from the many mistakes i’ve made and all i can do is move forward. thank you from the bottom of my heart. i can’t explain to you how refreshing it is to come across this post and see that it’s not me being chastized by people who are gonna believe what they believe. my perrogative is getting past this and moving forward with my family, whom i love very much

  12. Ok, this is getting rediculous. All I know of this guy is from going to high school with him. I don’t know him sinse we have graduated or in college or his family. He has admitted to having problems, noone is perfect. Things happen to even the best parents. If there was really a problem CPS wouldnt have given the baby back to either parent. And what is with people blaming the mother and crusifying her. She wasn’t even home. She was working. My last comment is something i learned in school, Dont believe everything you read. Not every fact to every story is known at the beginning.

  13. My god, some of you have such poor grammer/spelling it’s disturbing. Can we get a law passed that says if you’re planning on having a child, you must first pass a basic spelling/grammer test? Even with spell check and google some of you folks struggle with basic communication.

    • P.S. professor I do not struggle with spelling and grammar I struggle.with autocorrect on my phone…your diatribe is nonsensical and does not belong in this thread

      • I’m glad you don’t struggle with spelling/grammer Ann. I don’t believe I mentioned your name anywhere, but keep up the defensive attitude….it will get you far in life. Just figured I’d let people like Heffe know that when you spell simple words wrong or write sentences that don’t make any sense, it makes it hard to believe you have a college degree let alone passed the 4th grade. And by the way, you can turn autocorrect off on your phone 🙂

      • Noted…however you mentioned NO names…the generalization of “you people” could have been directed at one some all or mind…..not defensive just clarifying…and Heffe’s nonsensical babble is the LEAST of his issues…he truly believes he did nothing wrong and that bringing an infant out into the cold to chase dogs in the dead of night is ok…as for the autocorrect, my smart phone is about the only thing in my house that is smarter than me…I could shut it off if I tried hard enough but I love a challenge LOL

    • gawd darnet…..it was all that fancy schoolin’ i took….gave me the means to talk good. really? you want me to use proper grammar, speliing, and syntax of an f*n blog?

    • grammer huh….grammer, grammer grammer…maybe its grammar. Which is very nit picky unless you are laughing at someone correcting someone for poor spelling when they spell grammar wrong…steve buddy, have a clue.

  14. Truly, you’re wasting your time trying to defend yourself heffe. I would be doing the same thing you are if I were in your shoes, but people are going to keep blasting their opinions and try to further piss you off so they can try to justify their opinions and try to get you to portray yourself as the “monster” they keep calling you. Atleast you had the balls to defend yourself and tell your side of the story. Everyone needs to understand unless any of us were there no one can judge. What is wrong with the people of this world to just down people we don’t even know? I feel really bad for the children of this generation that have to grow up in a world full of hate and taught to judge a person by a news article. It truly makes me sick! I’m so glad to see people think any child is better of in the system being bounced around from foster home to foster home then with their parent(s) that DCF clearly found capable of being parents. Don’t get me wrong, there are several instances where the children are better of in a foster home then in the care of drug addicts or where children are abused/

    • Amazed…

      Truly you are missing the point..I do not know how you know “Heffe” but you are commending him for defending himself, when his arguments are the blatherings of an individual who no matter what, sees nothing wrong with taking an infant into the cold late at night I don’t give a tinker’s damn with how many wraps on him, to chase friggin dogs or to walk to the curb or whatever the hell he was doing…then all he could say over and over was I’m sorry…Sorry don’t mean jack when in one of his diatribes he admits that he has problems…ok fair enough you have problems…many people have problems and function in society, in the work place and as parents without doing stupid shi*t lik this than trying to defend his actions in a public blog and not expect to get a whole ration of crap for it….start sticking up for the child…he is the ONLY innocent victim in this…they returned him to the custody of his mother…wonderful….stipulations should have been made that “Heffe” should seek immediate help for his self admitted problems…these delusions of grandeur that he has and then the persecution he feels are classic signs that he truly needs help…I hope he gets it before something really bad happens….

      • kind sir/ma’am,
        i simply ask you to understand a number of things:

        – i was NOT chasing my dogs around the yard with child in tow. perhaps the “chasing of my dogs was misconstrued as something entirely different. the animals defecated on an area of the yard in which my landlord would have flipped a lid, had already returned upstairs as they always do. upon returning upstairs, (having put my son in his crib so as not to disturb him) it was at this juncture i found that he had no desire to be in his crib. my solution? …..well obviously the wrong one…..was to pick him up and console him. and as far as the “fact” that i kept saying that i was sorry did not occur. reason being, the officer standing adjacent to me would tell me to shut up every time i even attempted to ask a question.

        “ok fair enough you have problems…many people have problems and function in society, in the work place and as parents without doing stupid shi*t” & ” “Heffe” should seek immediate help for his self admitted problems…these delusions of grandeur that he has and then the persecution he feels are classic signs that he truly needs help…I hope he gets it before something really bad happens…

        in regards to this, i had already sought out help long before this occurrence and have yet to stop doing so, nor do i intend to. now, i’m not exactly sure what you mean by “these delusions of grandeur” you say i have are referring to.

        furthermore, i do not feel persecution from anyone at all. i realize my mistakes made throughout my life and have learned from them. and i take full responsibility for all the actions having occurred .

    • amazed,
      i sincerely am thankful for your input and understanding; as well as your input towards the matter at hand. and i learned the hard way to stop even attempting to defend myself. the endeavor is fruitless.

      • Finally you realize that? Good now go get the help you so obviously need….you are so delusional that Manson would look at you and go damn dude you are delusional…

  15. i honestly don’t think you people are understanding the point i am trying to convey ( gawsh darrnet, i knew i shoulda went to that fanceey skool past 6grade). i know that i did something wrong. i did not go chase the dogs in the dead of night as you may believe, they stay in the yard. in taking my son outside with me to curb his crying he was wearing his onesie, i brought him down covered not only in the fleece lining of his carry all, but took every necessary precaution to prevent any physical damage to my son.

    • If you know you did nothing wrong then why keep replying on this blog? I mean it was posted in December and its now April.

      Also Anonymous is right. Don’t contribute to a public blog if you don’t want to hear people’s opinions. Does it matter? If you did nothing wrong why continue defending yourself on the blog? I know if it was me I wouldn’t. I would contact the who ever wrote the blog and ask him to take it down if it was untrue. I WOULD NOT contribute to my opinions to the blog what so ever.

    • Guess again…Not! We told the mother of your child you’re no good for her. She is making a stupid mistake of staying with you…We lost her as a friend and it’s just sickening to see what is happening to her and the baby’s life. You are pulling her down, Christopher!

      You care about her and the baby? Be a man, leave and give her a chance. Let her take care of the baby alone and not take care of you….She is a whole lot better without you.

      Another sad part of the story is she lost most of her good friends because of you. You need a major overhaul.

  16. First and foremost I don’t know heffe from a hole in the wall and reguardless of what your point is, I was commending the fact that he has a set of balls to defend himself! Which is a right, just as it is a right for everyone to make their comments… freedom of speech. Honestly whatever did happen is no ones business. Are you the police? Are you a DCF social worker? Are you the reporter? Why do you really wanna argue about something that does not directly effect your life? Here’s an idea get a freaking hobby, because you are clearly bored with you life. Your clearly filled with hate and anger. Better yet, forget a hobby. Try anger management…

    • I don’t know who you were directing that at Amazed….but commending him for defending himself when there is NO legitimate defense other than he is truly disturbed….I don’t need anger management, and I DON’T need a hobby…I need to understand why an individual who clearly has issues and even admits it instead of seeking professional help that in my PROFESSIONAL opinion he truly needs, he chooses to ramble in a public forum and then get testy when people’s opinions do not mirror his own…I will not tell you what I do for a living but I will tell you I am qualified to say A: This young man needs help and B: His fiance had better see to it that he gets it before something really really bad happens…I understand first hand staying with the father of your children through the good and the bad…it took me A LOT to get help for my husband, but I finally got it for him and now he is the wonderful loving husband and father he always was before his issues arose…think about it…

  17. I would just like to thank everyone that commented on this blog for being hilariously entertaining. One thing I have to ask..were the dogs by any chance pitbulls?

  18. Simply put – it’s time to “man up” and just admit that you need help. If you put a fraction of the time into looking for (or working) a job as you do posting all these reasons (aka excuses) for your situation things would be much better for the three of you. Time to take a good hard look in the mirror and realize you are the problem – I truly wish you well with your recovery and life. But it’s on you – no one else. All three of you simply deserve better.

  19. I have been informed that you mentioned my name in this blog. As much as I try not to join here, you just invited me in and I will tell you what I feel.

    The moment I met you I knew something was not right. You were trying so hard to please us. I made the comment to one of her friends and i realized that they themselves did not like you. They made me aware of what you did and of course, she denied it all. When she moved to Boston, it tore our hearts out, but we felt she’s a grown woman and we have given her great foundation. We trusted that she would realize that you were not the right one for her.

    We asked you about your plans and your intentions. You provided us the words we wanted to hear such as going back to school and finishing your college and so on. But that was like four years ago. You have not been a provider for her and you know it.

    She finally admitted (Saturday) that you sold all her jewelries and her computer to buy drugs. She informed us before that your house was burglarized (last year) when you got evicted. However, I learned most of these from her friends who were worried sick about her. Amazingly, she finally admitted to me last Saturday and I have been wanting to hear her confession since last year. Chris, those things you sold had sentimental values and it represented something when we gave her each piece of her jewelries. Now, they’re all gone and cannot be replaced.

    The situation that happened last December was a shocker. Yes, there could be two stories but let us face it..how can you expect us to believe you or her when your lives are all base on lies and deceptions? All she’d done was deceive us, lies, and pretend everything was all right for you. It hurts us to see what you’re doing to them. How can you continue to live your life like this? And now with a baby, Is this the kind of life you want for them?

    When I came to visit after the baby was born, I gave you the chance to prove something to me that at least you’ve changed. We planned a barbecue and what happened? You took the car somewhere and had it towed. She did not have the money and she had to figure out where to find the money to get her car back. Next thing I knew, you wrecked her car and now her car is in worst shape. What are you doing about this? I have not seen you move or do something to take charge of things.

    Even she said that you tons of mental issues and I am not sure why she is still with you. Chris, it is time to get up and do what is right. Give her her freedom and not tell sad stories so she won’t leave you. She and the baby is better off without. Yes, a father is needed if that father is a provider and a role model. But ask yourself a question…have you been a model to your son? Look at his mother. Do you see major changes on her? She is very stress because of the life she’s living right now. What are you doing about it?

    I trust that you will come to your senses soon. Get your family to help you. Go back to school. Find you a job and start pitching in. She cannot do it all.

    • Raquel….

      Bravo! Obviously you know the situation…I don’t know the whole story only what I have read…Get her out any way you can…he has serious issues that he is not seeking help for no matter what he says…in my professional opinion he is self medicating instead of seeking medical and psychiatric treatment for his problems..I know firsthand also the difficulty and emotional struggle she has in dealing with someone mentally ill..she is torn between whatever love she has for him and keeping the father of her child in their lives and the fear and anxiety of moving on and the unknown…he continues to play the innocent poor misunderstood victim and refuses to believe that he did anything wrong..the only advice I can give you is to be strong for her, he there if she needs you and at the first sign things are getting bad get her out….I don’t give a frogs fat ass what he says…he will do or say anything to keep his delusions intact..as I said I have been there, but in my case I finally said enough and took the steps necessary to get the man I love the help he needed and now he is the same wonderful loving husband and father he always was…I doubt that unless professional interventions are made, “heffe” will get the help he truly needs, but if you step in with her and just keep trying to make her see the truth, eventually she will…if you like, look me up on Facebook under friends of the author of this blog and I can help point you in the right direction…Good luck and stay strong…and I will await the tantrums heffe will surely throw when he reads this frankly I don’t care about his feelings because he is so narcissisitic that he doesn’t care about anyone else’s so to hell with what he thinks…Good luck and God bless…

      • Dear Ann,

        Thanks for your reply. All we can do now is wait for her to call us. We’ve been praying that soon she’ll open her eyes and realize that he is not the right man for her.

        I do not know what he does but all I can tell you is he has so many excuses such as illnesses and promises to her too. It is a frustrating situation and it is killing us watching her suffer.

        I am not sure why she is choosing to live a hard life for her and the baby. Love? Perhaps it is but I am sure there are tons of guilt that is preventing her to leave him especially when his family tells her that she is the best thing that ever happened to him.

        Raquel

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